Areas of specialty
- Boundaries and Communication
- Couples and Relationships
- Relational patterns
- Relational trauma **see description below
- Identity, Growth, and Self-Discovery
- Life transitions
Folks often seek support in therapy when one's experience of aliveness has become unmanageable. Whether you have learned to dampen your aliveness (depression), squeeze it to produce excitement (anxiety) or clamp down on it until it is expelled (anger), there is a function to your response, and I can also appreciate that you may be wanting something different for yourself. I am here to support you with growing a more satisfying relationship to your aliveness.
Do you often find yourself agreeing to do things you end up regretting later? Do you feel guilty when your needs seem out of alignment with those around you? Do you feel resentful of others because they don't seem to recognize all that you do and keep asking for more?
If any of this is true for you, you may be asking yourself if you are satisfied with how you have been making or expressing your boundaries.
Whether you are looking to soften your boundaries (becoming less critical) in some contexts, or firm them up (becoming more assertive) in others, I will support you with growing boundaries that are satisfying and empowering for you.
Whether you are an individual person wanting to explore your relational style, attachment patterns, or bonding behaviors in a safe container with another person (individual therapy), or are in a relationship with another person and are needing support with a particular transition, dynamic, or cycle of conflict (relationship counseling), I will support you and your person with gradually growing a more satisfying experience of relationship, both individually and collectively.
As a Third Culture, queer, femme, Pennsylvania-Deitsch (White), mixed-class person who grew up in different social, cultural, and racial contexts, often as a minority, I am in a unique position to support folks with exploring identity.
Whether you are questioning a particular layer of your identity, wanting to unpack trans-generational patterns or legacies you have inherited, wanting support around a cross-cultural dynamic you have with a partner, or trying to reconcile the multiple worlds that live within you, I am here to support you with feeling at home in yourself. Identity is an ongoing, evolutionary journey and I am honored to be a part of your adventure.
I have experience supporting folks with diverse backgrounds and identities, especially as it pertains to gender, sexuality, and relationships.
Whether you have just moved to a new place, are expecting your first child, are about to get married, have recently experienced a break-up or loss, are considering a career change, or struggle with your sleep/wake cycles, I am here to support you with managing your experience of transition.
Transitions are happening within and around us all of the time, and one is often not connecting to the emotional impacts that are taking shape beneath the surface, as they are happening. Whether your transition is one that is bringing you joy or one that is causing you stress (or both), I will support you with moving through the present transition while engaging you with forming a more satisfying means of managing future transitions.
Emotional neglect & Parentification
I specialize in relational and attachment trauma that is experienced by those with emotionally-immature or unavailable caregivers. As a child, not having one's emotional world carefully tended to by one's caregiver can be experienced as a deep wound that is often experienced as "invisible". This is often an insidious form of trauma, because the person was not hurt in an "obvious" or an "extreme" way. However, the culmination of these wounds can influence how one relates to oneself, how one relates with other people, and can even influence the types of romantic partners one chooses to be with. The body's unconscious and deeply-wired patterning support the person with making familiar choices, because at some point, these choices, impulses, or responses, kept them safe and alive. I specialize in supporting adults who grew up feeling that they had to emotionally caretake for their caregivers, or were otherwise labeled "selfish"; were placed in a role of being their parents' "best friend" (codependency); and/or were made to feel that they had to "grow up" faster than they were ready to, so as to not burden their caregivers ("glass children").